2nd OB Visit

Rather than writing a 15 week update (which I am 2 days away from), I thought I'd write about our 2nd OB visit we just had.  Once again it was uneventful, which is a great thing!  I didn't have too many questions.  He talked about anemia in pregnancy, and touched on some things we may need to be aware of for labor and delivery.  Then he took my blood pressure, measured me, and listened for the babies!

Hearts are beating away nice and strong!  Once again, Baby A was a little bit faster, at 162bpm.  Baby B was a little more chill at 156bpm.  You could hear the differences between the heartbeats and he said there definitely were 2 babies in there.  I am measuring at 23cm, which is up a little bit from last week (I think I was 21cm then).  He said it was right on track, so I'm not worried.  My blood pressure was 110/70, which also is great.  I was given a requisition for an ultrasound in 4 weeks, and that was it.  Hooray!

There was a little bit of drama around having midwife care.  He started our visit with this, and was pretty firm (almost a jerk about it).  Contradictory to what the midwives said, he flat out told us he does not do shared care with midwives.  Then he went on a very bitter sounding rant about the redundancy in care, and how if there are any concerns, he would trump the advice of the midwives anyways.  He was pretty adamant about us not having them.  He did mention having supportive care towards the 3rd trimester if we really wanted.  I held my ground and told him that we are 100% okay with him being our primary caregiver, but we want to use the support services that the midwives offer, especially during and after birth.  When DH and I talked about it later, DH said it was kind of weird how strong a reaction he had.  We also don't understand why he is the OB at the clinic we have to see when he already knows he won't be there for our birth.  We decided not to press it though.  DH said he feels like we are being tossed around by the medical system a bit, but oh well.  I guess I have to call the midwives now and break the news to them.  It's just kind of stupid I think. 

He also basically told us that we should expect to either have a c-section, or that we will need an epidural to give birth by labour.  He said that even if the first baby is headfirst (I forget the terms for that), it is likely that the other baby will not be positioned correctly and they will have to reach in and turn the baby around.  He said that we will definitely need an epidural for that.  And if the first baby is breech, we automatically schedule a c-section.  Sigh.  Pretty much dashed my hopes for a natural labour.  I'll do more reading on it, because I know it is possible, and if I had the choice, I would love to have a natural labour for both babies.  I just don't feel like fighting much at this point.  We've been through so much to get to this point.  I just want these babies to come safely and soundly when they are due and I don't particularly care how we get to that point. 

So, that's about it.  Nothing much has changed symptom wise, except my ever growing belly!  I dreamed last night that DH was shocked and worried that I reached 200lbs, and I was super defensive about it.  We chuckled about it, but I warned him that is probably not too much off course.  Really, I don't care.  If it helps these babies grow big and strong, I will be happy!  I am trying to make more of an effort to get in shape this trimester more.  I plan to swim once a week, and try doing yoga at home more, in addition to my almost-daily walk.  I am happy with that. 

Oh, and I never wrote about our announcement at church!  It went well.  DH did share briefly about our struggle with infertility, and then told everyone that we are pregnant and expecting twins.  There was an audible gasp and excitement in the room!  I got a million hugs afterwards.  It was a bit overwhelming and I was exhausted after it all, but it was fine.  There were no awkward questions, or unwanted advice given at this point.  Actually DH had a conversation with a lady who was like, "It seems there are more and more twins being born these days.  I wonder why that is?"  DH said that in his head he was thinking, "It's because 1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility and can't have kids!" but he just smiled and nodded.   Good for him! 

Okay, that's enough rambling around for now.  I'm updating some bump pictures today too!  After this I'll hopefully be more organized and just update every 2nd week... but we'll see!