Hematoma anxieties

This week I have had trouble sleeping, worrying about the possibilities that could go wrong with this pregnancy.  I've also had a bit of increasing pain around the area where the clot is, and I'm getting scared that the placenta is starting to detach.  I have no idea what placental abruption feels like, but now that I know the pain is in the same place as the clot, I am worrying.

I think part of this anxiety is seeing how worried my parents are, particularly my dad.  My mom had some complications with her pregnancies that are similar.  With me, she had placenta previa, and went into early labour at 34 weeks due to partial placenta detachment.  With my brother, it was much more severe.  She had on and off bleeding throughout the pregnancy and was going to be put on hospital bed rest for the last three months.  While she was in the hospital for a routine check-up at 31 weeks, her placenta suddenly completely detached.  She fainted and had to be brought in for an emergency c-section right away!  She doesn't know why the placenta detached, but it could have been due to a SCH as well.  My brother was in the hospital for nearly 3 months, with lots of complications and barely made it.  Also my mom was put at risk due to the loss of blood and had to have a transfusion.  All in all, a scary time.  My dad remembers it vividly and doesn't want me to go through the same thing (and neither do I!).  I am worried about having a huge bleed while I am alone, or even at any point in time.  I am worried that our hospital does not have an NICU, or a neonatal team... what if it the babies come early and don't get the help they need?  I've even wondered if I can voluntarily put myself on hospital bed rest and be transferred to Vancouver...

I have been taking it much more easy this past week (if that is possible).  I think I will ask my Dr. for another ultrasound at my next appointment.  I don't know if they will be able to tell, but I really want to know if this hematoma IS affecting Baby A's placenta or not.  That would put me much more at ease.  Other than that, I don't know what to do.  I don't know how to get rid of these anxieties.  I don't even know if they are valid worries or not.  But I just needed to share.