As you can see from the title of this post, today did not go exactly as hoped.
We got to see our little one for the first time today. All that we really saw was a tiny sac with a tiny pole inside. The thing is, the sac is measuring a week smaller than it should be. It measured right around the 5 1/2 week mark, our doctor said. As of today, we are 6 weeks, 4 days past the IUI. I think it's just the doctors job, but he told us that this likely means that we will have a miscarriage. Well, he did say it wasn't completely hopeless, and that sometimes the growth catches up, but I think he sees more cases end in miscarriage and his job is to prepare us for the worst. The only reason he could give for it would be a possible chromosomal abnormality, which I think is just a catch-all answer doctors use when they have no explanation for it.
The hardest part was that this was not at all what I expected! I expected to either see a healthy baby, or not. We are really grateful that it is not an ectopic (that was our doctors big worry) but this really doesn't answer anything for us. I've done a tiny bit of research since we came home, and sometimes they can just be slow growing at first and still be okay. Also, if I did ovulate a few days later than he thought (I had ovulation pains 2 days after the IUI), couldn't it have implanted later and put us behind schedule? Well I don't think too much speculation can help, and so the ride continues and we wait till next week for another ultrasound.
It seems like it's been a tough week in the IF blog world. I really hoped to cheer up things with some good news.
Any tips on how to get this baby to grow, grow, grow???
I am so very sorry to hear this :| I have been through miscarriage and those words are very scary sometimes. I will say a prayer for you tonight and hope that things catch up over the next week. Thinking of you!!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for this news. I'm hoping that this one is just a slow grower and that you have good news soon.
ReplyDeleteI'm still holding out hope that this baby is just a slow grower and will catch up. At 10w3d baby B was measuring far behind baby A, but by 11w (4 days later!) baby B was bigger than baby A. It's kind of random it seems. There is a curve but that doesn't mean there aren't healthy babies on the small ends of the curve.
ReplyDeleteI kind of wish the doctor hadn't told you this news... Now what do you do??
Take care of yourself *HUGS*
I am so sorry to hear. My first u/s was similar as my dr was worried. My next u/s was better news although I am still not out of the woods yet. The first u/s are sometimes so hard to get a good reading. They can definitely be off. It depends on the equipment etc. A friend was told she had an empty sac at 6w2d and just went back yesterday at 7w1d and she saw her perfect little bean. I know it is impossible not to worry. I hope that next week brings you much better news like my friend experienced this week. Wishing you the best....
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you didn't get better news, but I think there's still hope. As I read your post, I wondered about the possibility of you ovulating later than was thought, which could certainly put you a bit behind. And as someone else mentioned, sometimes the readings can be off.
ReplyDeleteI'll be thinking of you and praying for a happy outcome. *hugs*
I'm sorry for the bad news. Praying the little one is just a little behind and will catch up soon. Hugz!
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